therustycupboard

 Today we got up early and wanted to get out side and enjoy the day the sun is shining and it's 44 degrees.   We got to work on a couple projects and hubby was having a good day...with dementia it is a roller coaster....but this week has been good. So we were each working away and I would say to hubby "could you do this" or later I would say "Brent I need this" and just was focused on working.  When I noticed hubby was just standing there ....he comes over and says "what am I supposed to do"..."Where do I go"....then I realized I had been barking out things for him to do....as caregivers we forget that without them having casts, or bandages or bleeding we forget there is a problem......we forget that they can't focus or remember.... Made me feel bad and I apologized....I slowed down and spoke slower....I gave only 1-2 tasks to do  and explained them as we went...I have to remember to be more careful....we decided that maybe I should wrap